Anxiety Disorders: We Aren’t Crazy, We’re Punch-Drunk

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Anxiety Punch Drunk

I love a good analogy.

There are a thousand ways to look at anxiety and I will probably share them all with you before my blogging days are over.    I am convinced there is an  “Anxiety Epiphany”  waiting to happen in all of you,  readers,  and I am going to try my hardest to make sure you all get to yours.

I am well aware that when the topic of anxiety disorders comes up,  talking about your subconscious  and your  amygdala  can quickly turn into a whole lot of  “blah, blah, blah”.    Its technical and its boring and it just over complicates everything.    But when you explain anxiety in simple terms that people can relate to,   people pay more attention and gain more of an understanding of whatever aspect of it you are trying to explain.

Analogies just make anxiety easier.

When anxiety disorders first erupt….people are usually pretty bewildered and confused as to what is going on.  “Why am I  feeling this way?”     “What was this “attack” I just had?”    “Why am I shaky and sick inside?”    

 

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Well………..imagine a boxer at the start of a fight.

He is young,  he is in shape,  he is feeling good…confident….and ready to take on “The Champ”.anxiety punch drunk

Round 1 doesn’t go so good.   He takes a few hits to the face.   Ding, Ding, Ding – the round is over.   He goes and sits down for 60 seconds, gets cleaned up by his team and then he is back up fighting again for Round 2.

Round 2….he is holding his own.   He is getting a few punches in,  but this is “The Champ” he is fighting here.    The Champ is tough and he gives our boxer a few more punches to the face and an Upper Cut or two.   The round ends.   Our boxer goes back to his corner for some more cleaning up and 60 more seconds of rest.

Round 3 starts and he is back at it.   Our young boxer is getting a little tired now.   He taking some punches to the gut,  some more hits to the face.   He is trying his best to fight but The Champ is in much better shape and has too much experience compared to our rookie boxer.

By the time Round 12 gets here,   our guy is in bad shape.    He has been taking repeated back to back beatings with only a minutes rest in between them.    Any doctor would tell our guy that there is no way he should get back in that ring.    His body just can’t handle it.    But our guy is trying to win.    He wants to be the best.    He wouldn’t listen to any doctor who tried to tell him not to continue the fight.    So he gets back in that ring and boom – with the first punch,  he is knocked out.  Our rookie is done.

 

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This boxing match is a lot like the evolution of an anxiety disorder.   There is one big difference though,   aside from the obvious.   And that is:   Awareness.

The beauty of awareness is that it allows you to see a problem,   know why you have the problem,  and then know how to fix the problem.

Our defeated boxer knows why he is miserable and in agony in the hours and days after the fight.    He knows that he just took a rough beating and that he has to rest up and take time to heal from all his wounds before he tries to go back into the ring.    He knows his body can’t handle the physical stress from another fight any other way.   He knows there is no weakness in saying   “I just went through a rough fight.  I won’t be fighting again for a while.   I have to take care of myself and build my strength back up.”    He knows that is what is best for him and his career so he does it.

But when our anxiety disorders break out and our symptoms start erupting,  we don’t have that same awareness.    Most of us are completely clueless.   We feel tremendous discomfort,  but we have no idea why.    In most cases of GAD and Panic Disorder,   there was no obvious “attack”  and there doesn’t seem to be any obvious threat looming.    We have no idea that the stress of our lives and our negative thinking is basically kicking our butt every single day.     The discomfort seems to come from nowhere at all.     And without knowing where it comes from,  we don’t know how to make the discomfort stop.

We don’t do any “healing” when our mental  “wounds” appear.    We aren’t even really consciously aware that we have  wounds.    So we just keep getting up and going out there and getting back in that ring of life,  taking hit after hit,  doing the emotional equivalent of stumbling around  “punch drunk” –  bewildered and confused,  wondering if we are crazy,  and worrying and thinking negatively every step of the way.

On some level I think that we are aware that we are under too much stress and that our lives need to slow down.   But here is the thing.   Those of us with anxiety are fighters too….just like our boxer.   There is some instinct we have to keep going.    Even when we feel like life has knocked us down,  we refuse to stay down for the count.   Part of us wants to go hide in our beds for a week, or a month,  and escape the world but few of us actually do anything to escape our stressful lives in any way.    We just keep on carrying on with our day to day lives,  waiting for this terrible discomfort to hopefully go away on its own,  as mysteriously as it arrived.

Think like our boxer,  who knows that you can’t heal a broken rib by continually getting punched in the ribs every day.      Our boxer knew when the fight was over. The knock out told him he was done. He had nothing left to give.

The problem with generalized anxiety and panic disorder is that there is no knock out. There is nothing that physically forces us out of the ring and into healing and better self care.    So we stay in,  day after day,  and continue the fight.

 

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Our brains aren’t going to give us a TKO and force us take some time away to heal. The decision has to come from us.

 

Another thing our physically beat up boxer is aware of is that he has to stay positive.    He is not going to sit around feeling bad about himself and calling himself a weak loser because he took some hits and needs to rest.    He knows he did his best and that there is no shame in bowing out of the ring until he has given himself time to recover.

Most boxers are positive thinkers to the extreme!    They know that being down on yourself is a waste of time and energy and they aren’t going to let any negative thought seeds plant in their minds and start growing.

On top of the emotional,  “stress caused”  wounds that we are already dealing with,  those of us with anxiety will usually then turn around and start causing more damage by beating ourselves up and saying that there must be something wrong with us because we can’t handle the same amount of  “life” that everybody else can handle.

The truth is that those of us with anxiety are strong enough to handle anything!

We prove that every day just by getting out of bed.   With all the thoughts and fears that run through our minds every day,   we could easily choose to just hide under the covers and let them come cart us away somewhere.    But the idea of that is appalling to us!   That is our biggest fear.   We WANT to be strong.   We WANT to be brave and independent.   We just need a rest – or at the very least some more relaxation incorporated into our daily lives.    But we think that if we admit to needing rest,  then other people might think we are crazy or exaggerating what we are going through.    So we muster up the strength to carry on,   no matter how bad of shape we are in,   telling ourselves the entire time how scared,  weak, tired and incapable we are.

Is it any wonder that after a while we start over reacting to everything?   

Pretty soon we are so nervous that even our own normal bodily sensations can send us straight into a panic attack.     We are “scare-a-noid”,  startling easy,  too scared to drive,  feeling sick to our stomach all the time, hyperventilating,  muscles constantly tense, etc.     When you spend all your time in the ring,   and never give yourself the proper amount of time to recover from the first match before moving on to the next one,   pretty soon your whole life is spent bracing yourself for the next punch.

 

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I think pretty much every person on this planet has a stress threshold.    With the exception of maybe the very select few…..I would say that everybody has a limit to how much stress they can handle.   But most people’s stress limit are higher than ours and it is a little more obvious to them when their stress level is out of society’s  “acceptable”  range.    When they start having emotional and physical symptoms of stress,  they recognize those symptoms for what they are and they take some time off and heal.   They don’t over analyze it and soon they are fine again.

But  most of us with anxiety are so sensitive,  that we have stress limits that fall below theaverage”.       We just aren’t aware of it.    When we start having physical and mental side effects of our stress,  we think the only logical explanation is that we have just lost our minds – which of course adds even MORE stress to our already maxed out stress limit.    And as I am sure you are aware,  there is going to be a very high fee when you go over your stress limit.

Get back below your stress limit by resting,  healing and thinking positively.   Then you won’t be paying those fees anymore.

Okay,  I think I just threw a credit card/shopping analogy in the middle of a boxing analogy.   My husband would laugh at that.    I guess my subconscious is trying very hard to get me out of the sports world and back to my comfort zone.

 

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But anyway, back on track here……It all makes perfect sense, doesn’t it?

There is no mystery to anxiety.   There is no reason to be bewildered.    We are just sensitive people who are not taking care of ourselves.   And now that you have awareness,  you can rest and heal your mind and put a recovery plan into place.   If you aren’t sure where to start with that,  consult a therapist in your area or contact the ADAA.    You can also refer to the steps I took for anxiety recovery or my anxiety resource links page.

Thanks for reading.

xoxo

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Photo Credit:  Boxing Gloves https://www.flickr.com/photos/generationbass/5415100068

Photo Credit:  TKO Photo – Wikipedia

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AnnaLisa Scott
AnnaLisa Scott is a full time blogger living successfully with GAD and OCD, who is passionate about helping people change their relationship with anxiety. TheWorryGames.com has helped thousands of people see their anxiety disorders in a new light and manage their symptoms through self empowerment, self care, and other natural methods.

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Aaron J Kelley
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I love the analogy of the boxer. It’s a perfect way to think about anxiety and the importance of awareness to caring for our anxiety.

Awareness has been so important to me as I’ve been trying to discard my anxious thoughts and feelings around being vulnerable with people close to me.

As I’ve been working on my anxiety I’ve also begun to notice how much negative self-talk I have even though I’m so positive when it comes to other people.

Awareness is such a great teacher. Thank you for sharing this post with us.

Helen Barbour
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Hi Lisa, I’ve just to access your anxiety recovery steps, but the links within the article don’t seem to be working at present – they’re coming up with ‘page not found’… Thanks. Helen

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