Poor anxiety. It gets such a bad rap. It is so misunderstood….so unappreciated.
It is labeled as “the bad guy”….a ruiner of lives. It is hated, loathed, and feared. When talking about anxiety, people say they want to beat it….conquer it…abolish it…get rid of it…kill it…destroy it. Many people feel like victims who are powerless over this “awful force” that has taken over their lives.
I think it is safe to say that most people with anxiety hate it more than they have ever hated anything. Anxiety has a horrible reputation and if anxiety were a person, I would probably feel really, really bad for it. Because you see, the truth is that anxiety is a good guy.
I know….shocking, isn’t it? But it’s true.
Anxiety is the greatest friend you will ever have. Anxiety cares more about you than anybody or anything on this earth ever will.
Anxiety’s sole purpose is to keep you safe and to keep you alive. It can spend hours, months, days, years trying to keep you out of harm’s way. As long as it sees that you need help, it is right by your side. It is so loyal to you, that it keeps coming back no matter how hard you try to get rid of it. It never gives up on you and it never will give up on you until it believes it is no longer needed.
It is a terrible shame your relationship with anxiety is so poor because anxiety never has and never will do anything to hurt you.
Anxiety is a hero…an amazing hero trying desperately to get your attention….to wake you up and make you slow down your life and start taking better care of yourself. Anxiety wants nothing more than to save you, despite the fact that every day, you treat it like it is the worst thing in the world.
You probably don’t believe a word of that, do you? I don’t blame you.
If I had read all that when my anxiety disorder first developed, I would have dismissed it as some hippy-dippy crap from some positive thinking Pollyanna and immediately clicked straight out of whatever blog I was reading because CLEARLY that person had no idea what REAL anxiety was. I mean, I had life altering anxiety that was so bad I couldn’t get out of bed. I wasn’t just stressing out over not being able to find shoes to match my outfit, which obviously was the extent of that person’s problems. What I had was an invisible monster that was looming over me every second of my life. I couldn’t see it. But I could FEEL it.
However, as somebody who spent months physically sick from anxiety……as somebody who once sat at a restaurant sobbing because I thought I would never be able to enjoy going out to eat again because all I wanted to do was get up and run away, without having any clue why, or what it was I felt the urge to run FROM……as somebody who has had every single anxiety symptom you could possibly think of at one time or another, I believe that everything I have said is true.
I AM HERE TO BUST THE ANXIETY MYTH.
As near as I can tell, anxiety doesn’t have a whole lot of people out there who think very highly of it. In book after book…. in blog after blog….. anxiety is the bad guy and is the cause of the downfall of many a good person. Through this website, I want to set the record straight and help free all of my fellow anxiety “sufferers” from the misconceptions and misperceptions surrounding this disorder, and show you what I believe to be the truth:
Anxiety could be the greatest thing that ever happened to you.
If you pay attention to what anxiety is trying to tell you, such as:
- You are under too much stress.
- Your inner dialogue isn’t healthy.
- You don’t spend enough time nurturing and taking care of yourself.
- You are over-thinking things that don’t need to be over-thought.
- Your life is moving way too fast.
…and if you work on making positive changes to address these issues, you can come through to the other side of this as a stronger, more positive, confident, happier person.
I am living proof of this.
I am not a doctor and I am not a psychologist, but I have something that most doctors and psychologists don’t have and that is twenty years of experience living with anxiety and successfully getting it under control and getting my life back.
That is not to say that I don’t think doctors and psychologists can be beneficial and I strongly encourage anybody with anxiety to seek out professional help if they haven’t already done so. You owe it to yourself to know ALL the options out there and decide what is best for you. Sometimes you have to try a few different doctors or counselors before you find one you “click” with so don’t throw in the towel after the first try. Doctors and counselors weren’t the answer for me, however. And if you can’t seem to find anybody who helps you “get” your anxiety, or if you need some extra help or another voice to listen to, then I strongly encourage you to stick with me and read through my anxiety information pages and let me show you what DID work for me.
Anxiety disorders are not a “death sentence”.
You can still have a great “normal” life despite having an anxiety disorder. Do not tell yourself any differently, and certainly don’t let anybody else tell you any differently. It is bad enough to live with the symptoms of anxiety. Don’t compound that discomfort by believing the great myth that is out there that anxiety is some kind of life wrecker.
The purpose of anxiety is to enhance your life…to make it better. It was designed with the purpose of helping you.
Don’t let a bad case of miscommunication and misinterpretation make you believe that things are worse than they are. Yes anxiety feels TERRIBLE. I know this and I will never try to downplay those feelings. Those feelings are REAL. But those very real feelings are telling you lies and you are believing every single one of them. Don’t fall into the “If I am feeling something, it must be justifed and valid and I must pay those feelings their due. “, line of thinking. This is simply not true. We can feel things all day long, every day of our lives, that are based on nothing but imagination. It is best to let your logic and common sense tell you which thoughts those are so you can get busy carrying on with your life in spite of them.
Deep down you know this. Deep down, I believe you already know pretty much everything I am going to tell you throughout this blog. You are just listening to your emotions right now, rather than your logic – because they are louder.
But your true voice and true thoughts haven’t gone anywhere.
I know that you can still hear them, even if it is ever so faintly. But being overly sensitized and stressed out has caused a “fog” to form in your mind that is preventing you from recognizing the truth and hearing your true voice and common sense as clearly as you used to.
You are reaching around, trying to find your way through this fog and you are feeling all kinds of things that your negative thinking mind is interpreting as “bad”. I am going to help clear this fog away, so you can finally clearly see what has been around you all this time and think “THAT is what I have been so scared of all this time? That is so harmless!”
The truth is that the anxiety response itself IS harmless. The way we push it into overdrive can take its toll over the years though as I am sure you are aware, in both physical and mental ways, so its important that you get rid of this fog and see the truth so you can get back in control of your life again!
Repetition is key to forming new healthier “thought roots”. Read this page a few times and let the information sink in.
I know that 99% of you are NOT going to do that but I’m still throwing it out there because that is what I did when I first started my anxiety recovery, and I think it helped. I read information over and over and over again until I felt like it had sunk in and now had an anchor sitting on top of it. It might seem like a very small, unnecessary thing, but the way you currently think about anxiety is deeply rooted. It is going to take some time for these new ideas that I am giving you to loosen up those old roots and make room for new, healthier roots to grow.
Also, the more you read about anxiety, the more you are desensitizing yourself to the idea of it, and that is KEY when it comes to your recovery.
So please, if you are really serious about making changes in your life and learning to control your anxiety , then take your time and don’t rush the process. As insignificant as you might think this page or any new anxiety related information might be…..read it again and again, and absorb every word before you move on and take in more.
When you are ready, check out Two Important Things To Know About Anxiety Control.
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