It doesn’t matter if it is related to drugs, alcohol, food, OCD compulsions, an unhealthy former relationship…we all know when we are making bad choices and we usually know that we will end up regretting them.
So why do so many of us seem to keep making them?
One reason is that we might be addicted – physically or mentally – to whatever the object of our desire is, or the unhealthy behavior is that we would like to engage in. This definitely complicates things and quite often requires professional help in order for us to recover from to the fullest extent that we can.
But another big part of the problem is that we simply don’t feel strong enough to say “No”. We feel powerless and weak and as if we are at the mercy of whatever it is our brain seems to be pushing us to do. But this isn’t true, and it is time for this thinking to change.
It may not be easy to say no. It may not be comfortable to say no. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do it. You have always been and always will be the ultimate captain of what goes on in your head and the decisions and choices you make. Its important that you repeat this to yourself often. You cannot be in control of your life if you don’t feel you can control your impulses.
It doesn’t matter what it is you have a hard time walking away from.
You have the power to say no. Never throw that power away.
I understand that this is not a mindset that you can snap your fingers and start achieving instant results with, but all great things start with a single thought. Repeat this affirmation to yourself often…remind yourself that you are strong, bold, and able to make choices for yourself that are wise and loving, even if they hurt.
If you truly struggle and absolutely don’t feel strong enough to stop engaging in unhealthy behaviors, then repeat this affirmation anyway, even if you don’t believe it, and please ask for help. You deserve it and you owe it to yourself to get it.
Remember your power! It is a strength, not a weakness to seek help.